Anecdotally, I don’t know a single woman who hasn’t been at least sexually assaulted, so yeah, there’s a lot of it. Many of us wouldn’t be counted in statistics because we never reported it or it was “just” assault (the guy who tried to rape me didn’t succeed because my sister came looking for me, caught him taking my pants off while I was unconscious, and beat him with a shoe until he left, so I always told myself nothing really happened). So yeah, rapists are way more common than we probably think, and they’re out there raping away.
Yeah, it sounds like an absurd amount but when I stop and think about the women in my life almost all of them have been sexually assaulted at some point. And that’s just the ones that have felt comfortable enough to tell me about their experiences. It’s fucked up.
I told my husband I was one of the few lucky ones who didn’t have a Me Too story, until he pointed out the time in the club where a man shoved his hand down the back of my pants and tried to grope me and I grabbed his fingers and bent them back until he screamed like a bitch, and the time I was walking alone by the canal and a man chased me and I ran into a business and they had to lock the door to stop him getting in.
It’s so bad for women that these situations don’t feel like anything to complain about. Because nothing technically happened.
Oh yeah, the number of times men have groped me without consent is way higher, to the point that I probably don’t even remember all of them because it happens so often to so many women. You just sort of move on because what else can you do? Well, nearly break their fingers, I guess (I’ve also done that).
Roughly one rape occurs in the United States every two minutes. About 55 rapes a day resulting in pregnancy. So there are likely upwards of 200 rapes a day total. Just in Texas.
“In 2022, about 442,754 women were raped or sexually assaulted in the U.S.”
If only 10% of those are rapes resulting in pregnancy, you’re looking at more than 44,000 forced births per year. And yes. In this way, it very much sucks to be a woman. I hope someone, somewhere, who reads these stark numbers stops engaging the toxic people who try and downplay women who don’t want to be alone with you, who act cautious around you, because they’re afraid.
I’m not going to say that this is just a Texas thing, but I’ve been watching a lot of true crime shows and it has absolutely shocked me how many of them occurred in Texas and Oklahoma.
Remember that there are more than 350,000,000 people in the US. That’s a lot of people doing a lot of things, so you’re going to see numbers like that.
It’s also worth nothing that the crime rate in the US continues to drop each year even though the media makes it seem like it’s more dangerous out there.
And not just here. Something like 3/4 of children in India are victims of sexual assault. This is really a world-wide problem that has always been there and only relatively recently are people more largely paying attention and thinking it is wrong.
People vote with their emotions and not rationally. Someone will put up an article and people will downvote the post because they don’t like what the article is talking about, even though that’s not the fault of the person who posted it.
Also, reading the responses you got, it does seem that some people took personal offense as if I were saying that nobody cared about this. Obviously people do and always have. Implying that I am arguing that nobody cared is a pretty uncharitable interpretation and may reflect the mental state of the people responding.
Societies as a whole haven’t really cared, before, and that’s my point–it’s “Old Boys Club” and misogynistic nonsense that finally is being reviewed by more. Humans as a group have over the past 20 years or so started to take this very seriously in a way that didn’t happen before, and is the cause of the various scandals of rape kits not being tested, etc.
The wording kind of implies that it’s only recently that people started seeing rape as a bad thing. I would argue otherwise.
I think that the people who were victims of it over the past centuries probably already thought it was a bad thing, along with anyone who cared about them. It’s not a new revelation. People have been trying to spread awareness about this happening for multiple generations.
It’s an extremely low moral bar, to be honest. Some actions are indefensible and inexcusable. Anyone who had even half of a heart would have still cared about this happening over a hundred years ago.
It’s caring about your mother/sister/daughter/friend/teacher/nurse/mechanic/niece/neighbour/cousin/welder/artist/etc. If you care at all about any of them, this should have always been important to you. It’s wanting people to not suffer.
It would be like saying that people only recently started caring when someone murders innocent people. It’s always been terrible, and the offenders have always been terrible.
The wording kind of implies that it’s only recently that people started seeing rape as a bad thing
I mean, it’s true. In most countries of the world, marital rape was both tolerated and legal 100 years ago.
It’s always been terrible, and the offenders have always been terrible.
The comment above doesn’t imply otherwise though. You may argue that most people in the past had shit ethical opinions without agreeing with those opinions.
marital rape was both tolerated and legal 100 years ago.
In the US, this argument only started to fall apart in the early 1990s when a big case came into the public light. People argued that legally a husband can’t rape and has marital rights. As I recall, the idiot was still convicted and this was a big shift in public perception.
People might have not collectively cared, specifically and especially the people who likely didn’t see half of the population as human.
The victims have always cared, was my initial main point. To claim otherwise would be to also deny the sentience of those people.
Idk if you can see it on your instance/browser, but I didn’t vote on the comment.
Added: I agree that people in general have had some level of shitty ethics though, in one way or another. Especially historically. I didn’t see it was you asking either, sorry about that lol.
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Anecdotally, I don’t know a single woman who hasn’t been at least sexually assaulted, so yeah, there’s a lot of it. Many of us wouldn’t be counted in statistics because we never reported it or it was “just” assault (the guy who tried to rape me didn’t succeed because my sister came looking for me, caught him taking my pants off while I was unconscious, and beat him with a shoe until he left, so I always told myself nothing really happened). So yeah, rapists are way more common than we probably think, and they’re out there raping away.
Me Too showed me that what you are saying is true. It is also how I found out that my sisters and aunt had such experiences in their lives.
Yeah, it sounds like an absurd amount but when I stop and think about the women in my life almost all of them have been sexually assaulted at some point. And that’s just the ones that have felt comfortable enough to tell me about their experiences. It’s fucked up.
I told my husband I was one of the few lucky ones who didn’t have a Me Too story, until he pointed out the time in the club where a man shoved his hand down the back of my pants and tried to grope me and I grabbed his fingers and bent them back until he screamed like a bitch, and the time I was walking alone by the canal and a man chased me and I ran into a business and they had to lock the door to stop him getting in.
It’s so bad for women that these situations don’t feel like anything to complain about. Because nothing technically happened.
Oh yeah, the number of times men have groped me without consent is way higher, to the point that I probably don’t even remember all of them because it happens so often to so many women. You just sort of move on because what else can you do? Well, nearly break their fingers, I guess (I’ve also done that).
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Roughly one rape occurs in the United States every two minutes. About 55 rapes a day resulting in pregnancy. So there are likely upwards of 200 rapes a day total. Just in Texas.
Another horrifying statistics is that 1 in 6 women are raped in their lifetime.
Jesus christ.
I had no idea it was that bad.
“In 2022, about 442,754 women were raped or sexually assaulted in the U.S.”
If only 10% of those are rapes resulting in pregnancy, you’re looking at more than 44,000 forced births per year. And yes. In this way, it very much sucks to be a woman. I hope someone, somewhere, who reads these stark numbers stops engaging the toxic people who try and downplay women who don’t want to be alone with you, who act cautious around you, because they’re afraid.
And that’s only what’s get reported or whatever - Which alot of victims don’t do.
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Looking it up, Texas is moderately above the national, 51 per 100k vs 40.
And consider you only have a chance to get pregnant if it happens during or before ovulation
I’m not going to say that this is just a Texas thing, but I’ve been watching a lot of true crime shows and it has absolutely shocked me how many of them occurred in Texas and Oklahoma.
Truly some of the worst people in the world occupied those lands over the last 150 year or so and we are seeing the results of that.
I don’t have any friends who haven’t been at least assaulted. Mine happened when I was sleeping in my own goddamn room in my own apartment years ago.
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Yeah. We need to do a whole lot to stop the rape. I have no idea what, but something.
Remember that there are more than 350,000,000 people in the US. That’s a lot of people doing a lot of things, so you’re going to see numbers like that.
It’s also worth nothing that the crime rate in the US continues to drop each year even though the media makes it seem like it’s more dangerous out there.
To put it in perspective, 1 in 6 women are raped in their life, so the problem is actually horrifyingly bad.
And not just here. Something like 3/4 of children in India are victims of sexual assault. This is really a world-wide problem that has always been there and only relatively recently are people more largely paying attention and thinking it is wrong.
Why was this downvoted?
People vote with their emotions and not rationally. Someone will put up an article and people will downvote the post because they don’t like what the article is talking about, even though that’s not the fault of the person who posted it.
Also, reading the responses you got, it does seem that some people took personal offense as if I were saying that nobody cared about this. Obviously people do and always have. Implying that I am arguing that nobody cared is a pretty uncharitable interpretation and may reflect the mental state of the people responding.
Societies as a whole haven’t really cared, before, and that’s my point–it’s “Old Boys Club” and misogynistic nonsense that finally is being reviewed by more. Humans as a group have over the past 20 years or so started to take this very seriously in a way that didn’t happen before, and is the cause of the various scandals of rape kits not being tested, etc.
The wording kind of implies that it’s only recently that people started seeing rape as a bad thing. I would argue otherwise.
I think that the people who were victims of it over the past centuries probably already thought it was a bad thing, along with anyone who cared about them. It’s not a new revelation. People have been trying to spread awareness about this happening for multiple generations.
It’s an extremely low moral bar, to be honest. Some actions are indefensible and inexcusable. Anyone who had even half of a heart would have still cared about this happening over a hundred years ago.
It’s caring about your mother/sister/daughter/friend/teacher/nurse/mechanic/niece/neighbour/cousin/welder/artist/etc. If you care at all about any of them, this should have always been important to you. It’s wanting people to not suffer.
It would be like saying that people only recently started caring when someone murders innocent people. It’s always been terrible, and the offenders have always been terrible.
I mean, it’s true. In most countries of the world, marital rape was both tolerated and legal 100 years ago.
The comment above doesn’t imply otherwise though. You may argue that most people in the past had shit ethical opinions without agreeing with those opinions.
In the US, this argument only started to fall apart in the early 1990s when a big case came into the public light. People argued that legally a husband can’t rape and has marital rights. As I recall, the idiot was still convicted and this was a big shift in public perception.
People might have not collectively cared, specifically and especially the people who likely didn’t see half of the population as human.
The victims have always cared, was my initial main point. To claim otherwise would be to also deny the sentience of those people.
Idk if you can see it on your instance/browser, but I didn’t vote on the comment.
Added: I agree that people in general have had some level of shitty ethics though, in one way or another. Especially historically. I didn’t see it was you asking either, sorry about that lol.
I don’t know, I asked because I don’t see any good reason worth downvoting. Thanks for replying tho.