The cost of misgendering a cis person is that they feel weird.
Let’s be clear that is an assumption. I understand that there is a shit ton of fake astroturfing going on, but not every single story of detransistioning is lies.
For a more personal experience point to this:
When I was a teen, transness wasn’t really talked about, so a cis male being un-masculine “had to” mean they were gay.
Cards on the table, I’m bisexual. But only for a single digit number of men. I’m effectively cishet.
But with how many times I heard that I must be gay, from bullies, from well meaning folks, from strangers… it added significant additional turmoil to my toughest times as a teen. Suicidal ideation tough times.
And now, over a decade and a half later, I’m still not a particularly masculine man in a standard ass cishet marriage with a kid. And I’m happy and comfortable in my identity.
So I have a tough time hearing this repeated narrative of “there’s no downsides!”
similar situation here, i’ve spent so much time introspecting my identity and at this point i’m very confident in simply not giving a shit about the concept of gender and sexuality.
I’m not straight, i’m not gay, i’m not cis, i’m not trans, i’m me. Anyone who wants to tell me that i have to be trans because i like some things that are traditionally feminine can suck my genderless dick and hopefully realize that the concept of “cracking the egg” is inherently not particularly better than denying someone’s identity as trans.
Let’s be clear that is an assumption. I understand that there is a shit ton of fake astroturfing going on, but not every single story of detransistioning is lies.
For a more personal experience point to this:
When I was a teen, transness wasn’t really talked about, so a cis male being un-masculine “had to” mean they were gay.
Cards on the table, I’m bisexual. But only for a single digit number of men. I’m effectively cishet.
But with how many times I heard that I must be gay, from bullies, from well meaning folks, from strangers… it added significant additional turmoil to my toughest times as a teen. Suicidal ideation tough times.
And now, over a decade and a half later, I’m still not a particularly masculine man in a standard ass cishet marriage with a kid. And I’m happy and comfortable in my identity.
So I have a tough time hearing this repeated narrative of “there’s no downsides!”
similar situation here, i’ve spent so much time introspecting my identity and at this point i’m very confident in simply not giving a shit about the concept of gender and sexuality.
I’m not straight, i’m not gay, i’m not cis, i’m not trans, i’m me. Anyone who wants to tell me that i have to be trans because i like some things that are traditionally feminine can suck my genderless dick and hopefully realize that the concept of “cracking the egg” is inherently not particularly better than denying someone’s identity as trans.