Of all of your interests, what is one that would be a “confession” to someone you’re in a new relationship with. When I say confession, I don’t mean a “Lets sit down and talk” thing, but something you’re hesitant to say immediately and would maybe be a little nervous about.
Mine would probably be my natural submissiveness to women. I’m switch but being submissive clicks with me mentally in a way that being dominant doesn’t. Many women I’ve known are submissive, so telling them I’m submissive to them would be something I’d be nervous about.
I’m wired differently. Physically. Like, things that work for most men can’t possibly work for me because the sensitive nerve endings all grew in a different spot. It would become difficult because I’d have to find the heart to tell them and the ego hit of not being able to satisfy me normally might be too great that there’s the temptation to just fake it rather than admit that I’m a special case. Plus, early on in our relationship, who wants to do all that explaining? It’s easy to sound entitled. I could totally see it reaching grand confession proportions.
If you don’t mind sharing… Which spot?
I could see that being really tough from your perspective. Have you had situations go south before?
Yes, but wholesomely, it was mainly because I wasn’t clear about this sooner. I’ve been fortunate enough to have good communication in my partners.
With that said, things can be complicated. It takes an open mind.
I love when my partner pisses on me.
Especially if they eat something that makes it smell different like asparagus or coffee.
Coffee makes the pee smell different?
Yeah, that’s why they say you shouldn’t drink you’re own pee if you’ve recently had coffee
I mean you shouldn’t drink your pee when you have had coffe, either.
There is a reason that crap was filtered out people!
But what if the coffee was really good? Or what if it’s someone else’s coffee pee?
Well I’ve never heard anyone say “you shouldn’t drink someone else’s pee who has recently consumed good coffee” so I guess it must be fine
Absolutely. My girlfriend can sometimes tell when I’ve had coffee from the lingering smell in the bathroom.
I think it’s good to get people’s sexualities out in the open before the relationship even begins. Like, I’m a bottom and I simply don’t fuck women (in a conventional sense). Gay guys are more understanding. It’s kind of a big deal and I wouldn’t want to lead with false assumptions.
It’s been a while since I’ve dated. But when I did, it was tough to bring up sex early because it could be interpreted as I only wanted sex. Or…it could be agreeing on what we like.
I put my sexual preferences in my dating profiles and I make sure I’m as direct as the setting allows. I can’t understand people who are coy about their sexuality. Mismatching sexuality is absolutely a dealbreaker. I recently spent an entire day with a guy who suddenly decided he wasn’t gay. Could have saved me the trouble.
Yeah I would need to know if a guy is submissive because that wouldn’t work for me, wouldn’t judge you for it at all just not good match. Just spent too many years fighting my own nature, I am not doing that for any guy anymore. So I think it’s good to get out of the way, the girls who are into it will love it, probably be a relief to them.
Exactly, it would have to be a match. In the case of a woman who is submissive, I would happily dominate her, but there would always be something missing for me. If she’s dominant, it opens up a whole new conversation that would likely be very fun.
