But I’m also finding a resistance to friends going to visit each other. You don’t have to spend money to see people, but it seems like even the effort to see people isn’t happening.
That’s a good point. I have found that post-pandemic people seem to also be a lot more accustomed to canceling last minute. I almost have more success having semi-large work gatherings than small friend ones.
I found out everyone I knew was not worth it (for multiple reasons), I might suffer loneliness but it’s better than being with people that don’t care if I’m dead or alive.
I’m sorry to hear that. I hope you do form a connection with someone who does wanna check in.
I’m old and my friends live all over the country. I send them 2-3 messages a year. Good friends imo.
I think cultural norms try to frame friendship as this magical connection. But really it’s a super nice person you met one time and now send Christmas cards and say hi to.
But I’m also finding a resistance to friends going to visit each other. You don’t have to spend money to see people, but it seems like even the effort to see people isn’t happening.
That’s a good point. I have found that post-pandemic people seem to also be a lot more accustomed to canceling last minute. I almost have more success having semi-large work gatherings than small friend ones.
I found out everyone I knew was not worth it (for multiple reasons), I might suffer loneliness but it’s better than being with people that don’t care if I’m dead or alive.
I’m sorry to hear that. I hope you do form a connection with someone who does wanna check in.
I’m old and my friends live all over the country. I send them 2-3 messages a year. Good friends imo.
I think cultural norms try to frame friendship as this magical connection. But really it’s a super nice person you met one time and now send Christmas cards and say hi to.