Background:

I’m in my 40s and I’ve always sort of beaten myself up over not being an avid reader. I go through phases where I read a bunch, sometimes I’ll finish a book in a months time, sometimes start a book and forget it, sometimes it seems like I go literally years without really getting into any book at all. But I still accumulate them.

Because of how important reading is and now I “fail” to prioritize it, I’ve always found myself in a poor relationship with reading. I feel this artificial pressure to read things that are only important and will somehow make me more useful. I feel this artificial pressure to start one book and read it to the end. I feel this artificial pressure to become a changed person by fully investing every bit of info from every book.

I’ve been learning that these pressures are untenable.

I’ve also noticed that I partake in all kinds of things without the same expectations: tv shows, games, podcasts, media and news outlets, social media, etc.

Right now I have 6 books that I am actively reading, and I am trying to remember that it’s for enjoyment and not some high level goal. Someone told me if I read 10 pages a day I would finish about 10 books a year. I found this so encouraging.

Taking the pressure off of reading has really helped me get more productive at reading, and I think it will help me convert my habit into a truly fruitful one.

So now I ask you:

  • What are your reading habits like?
  • What do you like to read?
  • What kind of stage of life are you in, and how does that affect it?
  • Have you made any changes, positive or negative, to your reading habits?
  • What else?
  • PonyOfWar@pawb.social
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    I read books for personal enjoyment, basically never for learning or self-improvement or anything like that. I only ever read one book at a time and mostly in the evening before going to sleep.

    I’m in my early thirties. My reading speed varies quite a lot based on the book and my mood, but I’ve definitely noticed that I’ve become “worse” at reading in recent years. Too many digital distractions I guess. That said, if I do manage to read for 2 hours before going to sleep, I sleep so much better than if I watch a movie or doomscroll on Lemmy or whatever.

    I mostly read sci-fi and fantasy, sometimes historical novels. I think this year I’ve finished 4 books so far, and dropped one quarter-way through. There were definitely years where I’ve managed way more.

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    I finish maybe 5 books a year. The library makes it so there’s a “deadline”, that helps.

    I also don’t mind picking up a book, and returning it after a few chapters if I realise I don’t like it.

    It shouldn’t feel like a chore.

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    For me getting an alarm clock made a difference. Because that nullified my brains weak excuse that I needed my phone by my bed “for an alarm”. No I didn’t. People have woken up perfectly reliably for years before smartphones. So I got an alarm clock. And that made it easier to turn going to bed into calm reading time instead of doom scrolling (by leaving my phone charging in other room). And that’s made a big difference, not only to quality of reading but also general mood.

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      Wow! That’s it, tomorrow I’m buying an alarm clock! Reading your comment made me realize how unhealthy it is to doom scroll myself to sleep! Thanks for the wake up!

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        Lately I have been trying to notice my doom scrolling actually using it as a cue to convert that energy into reading something I’m interested in.

        I’m trying to quit scrolling like I quit smoking decades ago: with intentional anger for being controlled and then redirection.

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      I still use my phone for an alarm but it’s always far away from my bed because if I can reach my alarm without having to stand up im liable to keep sleeping.

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    1. My reading habits are like everyone of my hobbies, I’m obsessed for a week then move on to a new pursuit then come back to reading several months later.
    2. I read text books about Aztec history.
    3. I’m a year away from 40 and I’m coming to terms with being alone for the rest of my life (which is exactly the same leading up to this point).
    4. I bought a book stand I can adjust and wheel around.
    5. Stop caring what other people think and just read when you feel like it. You’re overthinking this.
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    I would read like 60 or 70 books a year as a kid. I have the BOOK IT records to prove it. These days it’s like 10. I don’t think there is any shame in not reading per-se as long as you are pursuing other intellectual activities or hobbies.

    I think people put too much emphasis on reading as some idealized time sink. There are lots of productive ways to spend free time and reading is one of them. When you are a kid you have fewer options but as an adult cooking or wood working or gardening can be a fine form of intellectual stimulation.

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      One counterpoint I would have to those other hobbies (I enjoy all of them, so no disrespect to them or practitioners of them) is they don’t expose a person to new ideas as easily. Reading is great for getting a potential new perspective on something, or just absorbing new ideas in general.

      You can always combine both by reading up on another hobby you have, best of both worlds so to speak.

  • Droggelbecher@lemmy.world
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    To preface, you are not a worse person if you don’t like to read. There’s so many different ways to learn or grow nowadays, you don’t need to force yourself to do it through a medium you don’t enjoy.

    That said, I’m a person who DOES enjoy reading, but struggles to do it anyway for some reason. If that’s you as well, I get you. And I’d say it’s worth it.

    In general, figuring out WHY you want to read will impact how to best work it into your life. Is it for entertainment, mindfulness, to get a better attention span, to chill out, etc. I do it for calming down mixed with enjoyment, and that impacts how I work it into my day.

    What helped me was working it into my routine. I read at night. I don’t have a set schedule, I teach night school some nights, and I’m working on a masters thesis.

    My fixed point every day: some time when I feel ready (a fixed time would stress me out), I turn off my laptop, text my partner good night, and put my phone away. I get ready for bed. What follows is designated reading time. I read for as long as I enjoy it, am not too tired, and can still focus. If I’m not getting tired, I’ll dim the lights at some point. Sometimes, I read one page, sometimes 50. If you force it, it won’t be enjoyable.

    I also always carry the book and try to read while I’m on the tram or train. Especially for somewhat longer journeys, which I take somewhat regularly, I get a lot of chill reading done like that. But that’s pretty specific to my situation as I’m a public transport commuter and have a partner that lives 4 train hours away.

    • andyortlieb@lemmy.sdf.orgOP
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      I have, on a few occasions, rebooted my reading habit from traveling by airplane.

      I have found that if I do everything I can to feel as good as possible before a flight, and bring a book in my carry on, it’s one of the rare situations that there is nothing pulling me away from reading. I went somewhere for work last month and I finished 2 books on that trip. That made me really happy and motivated to keep it alive.

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    What else?

    My only advice would be these two:

    1. Don’t be afraid or ashamed to start and to not finish a book. It’s fine and it’s legit. There is no moral obligation on your part as a reader to finish a book you don’t enjoy. Just close it and try another one.
    2. Don’t be afraid to reopen a book you did not like before. We all change. So do our preferences. It’s not guaranteed (decades later, and after many repeated attempts, I still do not enjoy reading Marcel Proust) but some of your taste will indeed change with time. A few of the books I cherish today (in my 50s) were among the ‘wtf is that thing?’ the first time I tried to read them decades ago. Like, really.

    What are your reading habits like?

    • I read at every single opportunity I have. I never waste my time scrolling on my phone or watching TV (we don’t have a TV set). For me, doom scrolling is not even a temptation as I always have a (much more interesting) book with me. And when I don’t read and still don’t want to ‘waste’ my time looking at my phone, I will sketch in my pocket notebook instead. No matter where I am.
    • I read at any time of the day/evening/night. I have no fix work-schedule (I’m my own boss).
    • There are books waiting for me to grab them everywhere at our place. I mean not neatly stored in a bookshelf but lying in places where I will see them (my spouse is OK with that). I just checked, there are four books (one essay, one novel, a children book and a how-to guide) just here on my desk. Plus two dictionaries. And my personal diary which is another book I regularly re-read.
    • I always have more than one book started at the same time. So I can change book if I don’t feel like reading one in particular.
    • When I don’t want to read, I don’t read. That’s not a job. I very much like going out for long walks too and those will often take precedence over reading (but I will have a pocket book and a sketchbook with me, just in case).
    • I recently quit reading ebooks almost completely to read printed books (want to know why? check the link to my blog in my profile, there are three posts talking about that choice).
    • I always take notes while reading, no matter the type of book. I carry a bunch of A6 index cards within each book and a ballpoint pen. Cards on which i write the page number and a short note/comment/quote. I keep all those notes organized in a box which later helps me easily and quickly go through all what I read to find whatever I am looking for and also often find new ideas while doing so (wanna know more about that card thing? Search what is a Zettelkasten, aka a fancy German word to describe a box with a large stack of somewhat organized but not too organized index cards in it, it’s like a second brain, just better).

    What do you like to read?

    Essays, poetry, novels, phylosophy, history, short stories, sociology,… Younger, I used to read a lot of plays (Racine, Shakespeare, Godot,…). I read in French and in English (starting to read in Spanish too, but I still have a lot to learn). I love all eras, from antiquity to very contemporary works. I like reading children books a lot too, even though I’m 50+ and my spouse and I have no children. Some of those books are pure masterpieces, text as well as illustrations.

    The thing that may help you get into reading more (beside not forcing yourself to finish one in particular) is to try to widen your horizon by trying stuff you would not normally read.

    Say you like fantasy, ok, try horror instead. Or scifi. Or historical romance. Or essays. And so on. Just keep in mind you’re trying it, don’t force it if you don’t like it. To save money, use your public library: it’s probably free ;)

    What kind of stage of life are you in, and how does that affect it?

    Not sure to understand the question.

    50+ I now need glasses to read. Beside that… I still try to read widely and to never let anyone’s expectations about what some dude like me (my age, my genre, race, social situation, whatever) is supposed to be reading and enjoying.

    Have you made any changes, positive or negative, to your reading habits?

    Positive: like I said, recently I quit reading ebooks and went back to good old paper. Zero regret, quite the contrary: I’m more tranquil. Once again, feel free to check my little (and seldom updated) blog if you’re curious to know more about that ;)

    Negative: I sometimes read less, out of sheer laziness. I always regret it.

  • fuckwit_mcbumcrumble@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    Because of how important reading is

    Reading itself isn’t what’s important, it’s mental stimulation that is. And more importantly stimulating different parts of the brain.

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      Reading itself isn’t what’s important, it’s mental stimulation that is. And more importantly stimulating different parts of the brain.

      It’s important if you want to understand how the world works on a deeper level. There’s a reason that all scientific research is primarily presented in the written form.

      Although I assume OP is talking about fiction which is a different matter.

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    I read every day, before bedtime, and in bed. I can’t fall asleep without reading something. This has been a lifelong habit. I still also study techie books for my career. I pretty much self trained foir that by reading books.

    Mostly non-fiction. History, music criticism and artist bios, current science. Been reading anarchist literature recently.

    I am old, 65. It has affected my reading habits, but not completely; I have fewer commitments, more time on my hands.

    Is this positive? I have quit automatically picking up the tablet and reading when I wake at 2 am, and try to go back to sleep again.

    I am very picky about what I enjoy. I suggest you try lots of genres, types of books, find something you enjoy. If that’s graphic novels, enjoy that: if it helps associate reading with fun instead of being a task, great.

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    I used to read (books, newspapers, cereal packets, everything, even fricking Cosmo) a hell of a lot before t’internet. Now I struggled to read a magazine in one sitting. I have a diet of RSS feeds and the linked articles.

    I’m thirty years older, as we all are pre- post- net, so that probably has an effect but it’s upsetting me how little I read (read) now.

    I have a old Kindle (circa the first paperwhite series) which I find is devoid of battery power whenever I pick it up and I forget to replace it on my wireless phone charger (buy the kindle a wireless charging client with a microUSB plug from Amazon/AliExpress to put between the cover you necessarily bought and the Kindle) when I remove my phone.

    Thinking buying a dumb phone might be the way forward to kill my died of short articles which maybe killed my attention span.

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    Ive never been able to physically read books, I end up getting bored, reading the same page over and over etc I just can’t concentrate on it long enough and as such always thought I didn’t really like books.

    Then I discovered audiobooks around 10 years ago.

    Now I get through probably 100 plus books each year and fucking love it. I always listen to books at work whilst doing stuff like setting up machines, I’ll listen to them whilst doing chores, or working on my bike or any other kind of task like that.

    If I’m not enjoying a book after around half an hour or so I’ll just drop it and move on unless it is something I really want to get into but as ive got older I apply this mindset to a lot more things and find in general it makes things a lot more enjoyable than trying to force stuff I’m not enjoying.

    I mainly read fantasy and horror and never read to learn or anything like that, it is purely for enjoyment!

    • andyortlieb@lemmy.sdf.orgOP
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      Do you ever use librivox? There are a few specific readers I found there that are great for me to fall asleep to.

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        Librevox was actually where my journey into reading began so yes, ive used it extensively.

        It is a great resource for sure but also some readers I absolutely could not stand and would stop listening based on how they read or the way they pronounced stuff that annoyed me. Conversely there are some absolutely great readers on there as well.

        This is how I found hat kinds of stories / genres I liked in the first place by just going through their library and listening to random stuff. Finding authors I liked and then bingeing everything I could find of theirs.

        I started my journey off with Lovecraft and Edgar Rice Burroughs on there and still go back sometimes and listen to the recordings people have made for librevox. I have a special place in my heart for the caspak trilogy as they were the first books I ever really got into!

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    I read before i go to sleep each day. I have been for more than 10 years now. I have read fantasy for quite a while, but after reading mistborn and stormlight archive back to back, i can’t bring myself to read anything fantasy anymore.

    I mostly read about topics i would like to know more about. Physics, life, philosophy, anything that i come across and think “cool”.

    Mind you, english is my second language, so since i mostly read in english, it helps with that, but now i can enjoy books in swedish as well, which also motivates me to keep reading.

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    Early 40s here. I read a lot, but never books.

    I read online. I get information, jokes, funny stories and random bullshit.

    I can’t imagine myself sitting down and reading a book in the near future. I don’t have the time, and if I did, there’s so many other things I could be doing for much more personal benefit.