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Cake day: March 23rd, 2025
  • panathea@lemmy.blahaj.zonetoLGBTQ+@beehaw.org•Anyone else join Beehaw (or other queer spaces) out of a feeling of wanting to belong, before even realizing you were queer?English
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    2 days ago

    Transition is wild! I already had what I felt was a happy and fulfilling life, and transition just brings it all to a new level. I went full time just a couple weeks into HRT, and changed my online socials 4 months into HRT.

    I finished legal transition around that time, too.

    I started to be cis-passing around 6-7 months? Which is way earlier than I anticipated. I’m still getting used to that, but yes, it’s just been 100% positive.

    I’m also super lucky that my partner is bi (but more physically attracted to women; I am a trans woman). She was actually pretty excited about my transition from the beginning. She’s been suuuper supportive and very into the changes that have occured. I wish everyone could have a partner like her during their transition, she lifts me up when dysphoria drags me down.

    I’m curious what made your egg crack, and how it’s all going with HRT?

  • panathea@lemmy.blahaj.zonetoNo Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•How do you get over a breakup with someone who was (and is) also a very close friend?English
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    2 months ago
    • Being vulnerable, but not oversharing / overbearing, will actually provide an opportunity to deepen your friendships. They will appreciate knowing what you’re feeling and folks respond better to vulnerability than you expect.
    • The right time to reconnect with an ex is when you are better and over them. If you still feel incomplete without her, then it’s the wrong time. Cliché but true: you must love yourself before you can be loved.
    • Therapy could really help you work through these feelings. If you cannot afford therapy, look for support groups in your area. Just hearing other people going through similar situations can help.
    • Build up non-romantic relationships while you are still so raw. A.k.a. hang out with your friends, open up and ask for their support, and be there for them. If you try to find romance while you’re not over your ex, you’ll make mistakes and maybe open old wounds, compare your new partners in unfair ways to your old ones, and just generally have a bad time.

    I wish you luck. A breakup is never easy and it sounds like she means the world to you. It’ll never be right, but it will be okay.