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  • TBH, it works for some people. I have a cousin that was happy for 30 years when he married a similar age gap in the other direction.

    It really depends on the person. My boss from the bike shops was 20 years older than me and his wife was my age yet they made a great couple too. They were both pro amateur level cyclists and finding a good match like that is not common.

    I was physically disabled at 29, and if I was somehow able to recover, I would likely be more interested in someone 10+ years younger because that is how long my life has been in limbo. I didn’t get a lot of the life experiences.

    In the world of today, expecting the old normals is pretty much nonsense. Where I live, there is no chance someone in their twenties lives on their own and has any kind of financial stability unless their parents are creating it. Those types of people look to marry and date within their social class. Only fools at the bottom fail to see the social classes and caste systems in all societies. Your ex is likely right in my opinion. Most of our religious and cultural norms are little more than a tool to suppress the peasantry. Resisting the unfamiliar is common tribalism behavior but it has little to no value in the present world. The man’s age is irrelevant against the measure of the man. I’m against taking agency away from your daughter. Meet the man with a open mind and then make your case with your daughter if you need to, but don’t be dogmatic.



  • Does it not show any downvotes at all, like drops them and only shows positive, or does it show the general vote where the view can go below zero?

    I need to see the negative vote and stuff in 3d printing where I actually need to do occasional mod stuff. I would prefer if we all had the mindset that not voting or engaging is negative feedback just like in the real world.

    Personally, I want the duality of seeing every post and every vote where I’m a mod, but I want to drop all negative votes entirely everywhere else, like I don’t want the aggregate or total, I only want the positive because I never post in bad faith and I am more than mature enough to spot bad actors without any assistance needed from voting. IMO all anonymous negativity is a psychotic disorder and its implementation is sadistic nonsense that should not happen. It is no different than walking up to a stranger in the supermarket and cursing at them for the clothes that they wear or how they talk. Everyone has a right to be negative, but they must be required to engage openly where I have a chance to block them.


  • It is an influx of children that happened over the last few months. It is also admin failing to remove the primary half dozen people that represent 90% of all downvoting here as other admins have shared as happening from their panel view. This failure to act is the leading thing holding Lemmy back at the moment. The sad thing is that this server has not been kept up to date which is really bad for Lemmy overall IMO. The lack of action against the amplification of a few bad actors is further evidence of a sick system overall here and is very concerning.







  • Absolutely not. No present computer can be built from scratch. The bootloader and microcode are proprietary. People slapping parts into a case are not building anything. No one can read the datasheets and build a machine like Woz, for some unethical asshat like Jobs to steal. The hardware is undocumented at this level and is now propriety because of a culture of moral decay. When x86 got established, it was only because it was open source with full documentation, and not only that, it was required to be second and third sourced to ensure no one could manipulate customers even with just the sourcing. That culture of never trusting companies and accountability is dead.

    Trust, required for proprietary products, is feudalism. Ultimately that loss of ownership rights is a coup against democracy itself when normalized in culture. This is a dystopian world I recognize for its broad implications for a terrible dystopian future and wholly reject. I can only affect change in myself, and tell others. It is a complicated balance.

    I will not hesitate to speak up with my personal opinion. However, my personal opinion is not a moderator here. I really should edit the community details to make my position clear. I have a policy of very conservative moderation. I have communicated to other mods and mentioned openly that my policy towards moderation is to never take actions when I am involved in a conversation. I will defer to other mods if ever necessary.

    My personal opinions hold no sway over moderation here. Guerilla marketing is prohibited, but determining so in practice follows a set of undisclosed rules that will remain undisclosed to avoid gaming them.

    I am only human. I can be easy to dislike by many, so I am told anecdotally. I’m very abstract in my thinking and reasoning. One of the positives to such an abstracted personality is that I am, I believe, more capable than average of disconnecting my internal sense of morality and beliefs from my actions in judgment of others. I value the idealized judge I wish I had, altruistically, in the actions I take for or against others far more than enforcing any internal emotional perspective I retain. In other words, I care about the community members more than my principals that are intended to better said community. I will never attempt to hurt the community to shape it to my will or dilutions of an ideologue incapable of adjusting to reality, even dystopia.

    As a person, I’ll never shut up or stop pointing out that proprietary is the refuge of criminal thieves and cowards. That it is selling yourself and ultimately citizenship and democracy in the biggest picture. However, as a moderator I welcome all to share their experiences in 3d printing, completely unhindered and openly. I will not stop them from sharing in any way, but I will not silence those that object for moral reasons either, so long as both sides remain respectful and positive overall. Hopefully that clearly defines my stance and puts any doubts to rest.

    There is no reason to worry about the ambiguity of that moderator tag here. I engaged, therefore in this place, by my own rules, I am not a mod in this instance or any other similar instance. I will always tell users directly if I question or engage as a moderator, and this is only applicable in instances where I am not already involved. As a mod, I am only here as the janitor to herd bots and sort out issues like bigotry. The community is just as much yours as it is mine as a mod and as a user. As a fellow human, I do not matter here any more than you.


  • The entire hobby should have started in the 1980’s. It did not because of proprietary anti competitive cowards. RepRap and Adrian Bowyer created the entire 3d printing hobby and community. The whole thing only exists because of these. The exploitation of this community is the only issue I care about. I will call out thieves every time. You may love stollen goods. I can’t change your ethics. I will not call them reasonable or morally right.



  • It is just a wire and connector. That isn’t Prusa. If it was a bambu you would be buying a new printer without an upgrade path, and since a new printer came out, your old suddenly stops working right like some Apple product. Believe it or not, bambu printers have connectors, likely from the same global supplier too.

    The quick fix is to remove the connector from both sides, yes the female too. Then solder the connection directly. You can add some hot glue for strain relief. You’ll still likely have the other side of the connector. If not, who cares, “it just works.”

    I know it is a pain, and irritating, Prusa wiring is probably the weakest link. I redid pretty much every wire to make them exactly to length and routed properly when building my MK3 because it bugged me.

    I would not try to crimp a new terminal properly given your admission of mechanical ability. Getting a good crimp with a small connector is tricky without experience. It would be easier to order the same connector wire precrimped and replace the end of the wire. Then do a splice a few inches higher. Or just order the parts.

    If you need to replace a pin on the PCB, it MUST be done carefully or you’ll lift a trace. It is a job that should be done with a full soldering station. However I could do it with a candle and a nail in a zombie apocalypse. The trick is in only barely heating the pin enough to melt the solder completely. That requires a soldering iron tip with as much heat mass as possible so that you do not need too much heat to compensate for the temp drop upon contact. If none of this makes sense, just buy the replacement parts.

    Sorry for the bad day, seriously.



  • The effect is minor but nagging. I like to use hyperbole to give emotional weight to my words. It is far more intentional than it is instability. I’m pressing issues that should be pressed and creating the potential gravity to get noticed and draw attention where it is needed.

    It is true that my abstractions can be misunderstood a lot here, and my hyperbole, hard to contextualize. I make mistakes often but am curious and ever growing.

    All of my personal issues are circumstantial. The underlying person is still present. I do not try to manipulate anyone for my nefarious gain, but I can be a high mach when I wish to improve some deficiency, as I have attempted here.

    I have left Reddit completely, but it wasn’t for the API changes as the direct issue. I take issue with any company tracking my device, vision, or page dwell times for exploitation. And I do not like anyone using algorithms to alter user retention. The way reddit did the API showed this was their objective moving forward. It is not just the app aspect that I am taking issue with. The entire internet only has two web crawlers, Microsoft and Google. All search providers query one of these two directly or indirectly. The results from these sources are not deterministic. They are tailored and tracking on several levels. This is why it really matters. It is an attack on freedom of information. We are in the age of mass individualized manipulation already. The lack of determinism in search query responses proves it. Your access to deterministic information is a critical pillar of democracy. If that pillar is lost, so is democracy. Controlling access to information is just as effective as invading with an army. It was never about banner ads.


  • I find it highly offensive when anyone tells me what I think or believe. You have no right to speak in my voice or write my narrative.

    I love to debate. I love to learn and take in new information and perspectives. To assume is to make an ass-u-me. Do not assume you know me at all unless you have asked questions and are quoting or paraphrasing my statements in the context I made them.

    I am not in any way resistant to negative feedback. I want to engage with people that are open minded and flexible in their thinking. Those that have a rigid mindset and parrot some narrative on the right or left are religious fools I waste no time with. Arguing belief systems is a fool’s folly.

    I take offense at anonymizing negative feedback. This is not accepted or normal human behavior. It is the realm of criminals and cowards to stab people in the back without the opportunity to confront their assailant. I do not accept this criminality as normal. If you wish to have a counter opinion you must do so openly and debate and defend your opinion. Anything less is barbaric primitivism.


  • This still does not address the fundamental existence of downvoting as a form of anonymous negativity to a stranger and what purpose it serves. This behavior is not acceptable under any circumstances in person. The existence itself is not justified at a foundational level. It is the anomaly that should be addressed. The normalization of this behavior is neurodivergent and should be corrected. Negative and opposing opinions are normal. Anonymous back stabbing has always been the refuge of criminals and cowards. Creating a path of least resistance to such a behavior is morally atrocious nonsense. The lack of philosophical awareness of this issue is reprehensible primitivism that should be an extreme embarrassment to any developer that implements the cultivation of sadism to shape a dystopian future where backstabbing and anonymous negativity towards strangers is normalized.