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  • callouscomic@lemm.eetoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlIf you do, why do you believe in God?
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    2 days ago

    Given all of my unresolved prior trauma caused almost exclusively by my upbringing around those believing? No thanks. Fuck everyone that believes this shit. It too clearly self-selects the narcissist asshole who wants excuses to not have to answer for how shitty they are. They ram it into EVERYTHING and use it as a blanket for pure judgment amd shame of others. Fuck em all.

    And don’t give me this religion vs spirituality bullshit. Very clearly the vast majority are affected by religion. It ain’t my job to sort through that when 99% are clearly bad apples.

    I’m speaking from actual personal traumatic experiences from childhood home, multiple churches, multiple schools, and lots of extended family and family friends. Fuck. Them. All.







  • Absolutely. With all forms of art, I feel this is an extension of the Death of the Author concept, in that you separate the art from the artist, and it has less to do with what the artist intended and more to do with your take and interpretation of something, good or bad, and it’s effect and meaning for you.

    For example, due to my childhood and lots of past trauma, I harbor some deeply resentful and hateful feelings toward Christians and Christianity in general. However, there are some Christian rock and metal bands I have always loved, and a lot of their music doesn’t always scream religion at me. I appreciate and enjoy some of these still today, despite the fact they ultimately are representing something I detest. The way I enjoy it and what it means to me is different from what they intended.


  • callouscomic@lemm.eetoComic Strips@lemmy.worldCollege Degree
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    8 days ago

    Seeing more of your responses, it is clear you spend too much time online in anti-capitalist groups and expect people to just magically accomplish your ideals.

    Good luck to you and your bitterness. The rest of us have actual lives to live and bills to pay. It’s not as binary as you see it.


  • callouscomic@lemm.eetoComic Strips@lemmy.worldCollege Degree
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    I needed to live and pay bills and take care of a family. I tried to write it in a sensitive way and it still wasn’t good enough for your entitled, priviliged, and judgmental stance.

    Some of us literally have no ability to just entertain “adventure.” We needed to just survive. And I was simply stating that I think some people need to be a bit more willing to make hard choices to better their lives, such as moving where their particular jobs are more likely to be.

    It has nothing to do with licking boot. It has to do with reality and survival. But a secondary benefit was that I found joy in my career and what I do since it’s a public service type of career as well. I also became a productive member of society and can now help others a bit in various ways.

    I’ll also add that while the goal at the time was not to do anything I wanted, but to do what I needed, I wound up in a degree and field that is still interesting (I didnt study what I wanted, I studied what I thought might pay well and which I was good at). Moving for jobs was significant to changing my life and giving some new perspective and adventure in the simple sense that I got away from where I grew up and saw a different place and have met and worked with tons of great people from all over the world who also moved here. It was not my original purpose, and it’s not the same as travel for adventure or leisure which was not something I could ever entertain for the majority of my life, but it has in a way given me adventure I wasn’t seeking.

    I will also note the original move for a job itself was never simple. We literally slept on floors for the first few weeks.

    I don’t regret any of it. Our lives are immensely better today for making hard but smart moves for the better. Others should also do the same if they have options to better their lives.



  • callouscomic@lemm.eetoComic Strips@lemmy.worldCollege Degree
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    9 days ago

    Everyone’s experience is different, and things ARE absolutely more difficult in recent decades than many decades ago.

    That said, I remember around the time I was graduating and how it felt like the vast majority of everyone I knew was baffled by my willingness to move far away (for the job), and how many of them refused to move away from home (where there weren’t many job options for degrees).

    There’s also choices to make to do projects or a thesis around real productive ideas to build something to show off to employers. There’s opportunities to practice interviewing, shadow careers, and make yourself presentable and stand out for your field, and again I just remember very few who actually put in the effort and wanted to appear well-rounded amd with a portfolio of sorts to distinguish themselves. Most of my classmates seemed to just want to check boxes and expect a career to happen.

    Some people in my personal experience seem unwilling to do what’s necessary to make their degree worthwhile.

    Yeah you may be able to get [insert degree] at [random local college], but a lot of the good careers are not going to be where you got the degree, amd you really have to find ways to convince employers why you’re different.

    Then on top of all of that, there’s just some luck as well. And I know in some ways I also just got lucky in landing a job.

    Meanwhile, ever since I moved and started a career, I have been surrounded by incredible degree-wielding people from all over the world. So clearly lots of people do find success and they are doing great jobs.