Programmer. Gamer. Weirdo. Pizza annihilator. Rubik’s Cuber.

Not afraid of being honest. Native German speaker, fluent in English.

Aroace. Trans Ally.

Part of the big Reddit user migration.

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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • Relationships? Which relationships?

    I’m honestly half joking. The one relationship I ever entered as a teenager was because I was drowning in hetero- and amatonormativity and didn’t know any better. I never hugged her, I never kissed her, and I especially never did any naughty things with her. It was an attempt from my mother to encourage me to feel love as an otherwise friend-less neurodivergent child. you know, the kind of “why don’t you write a love letter to her, if you enjoy being around her?” encouragement. It was only platonic, but I didn’t know better. I’m sure my mother meant well, but in hindsight it is disgusting how much it actually was amatonormative coercion.

    Other than that, as an aroace, I never entered a romantic or sexual relationship.

    I did find some amazing online friends for life, though. We’ve been meeting for a full week once a year, for the last decade, and always have a blast. Funnily enough, at least 4 people in the friend group turned out to be queer… :D

    And friendships is where I excel at, I’d say. I’d consider myself a very loyal friend.

    What does hurt a bit is the obvious priority shift when people start putting their long term relationship to the next level, which usually massively decreases the time and effort they put into their friend groups. The fact that they suddenly have something better to do than do stuff with friends, or only rarely show up, because their significant other(s) are more important does feel more and more isolating over time.


  • mathematics is a human language/system.

    nature just follows the laws and quirks this universe has. the plants, animals and subatomic particles will keep doing the same, regardless if we have a tool or theory that can describe what they’re doing.

    sure, there are patterns everywhere in nature, but i would not go as far as to say that that makes mathematics a language of nature.