People read the first sentence then just forget that he was essentially just a bigoted anprim ideologically.

Lol you clearly don’t go to the gym if you’re saying this. Went to the YMCA as a kid and saw elliptical politics that made my middle school that literally split us into “teams” by economic class look tame in comparison. Because of the death of the third place in western society, any activity that isn’t where you sleep or work becomes a third place, where people are kind of inherently judging the people around them, to fulfill this. All the shitty people you went to high school gym with are mostly the same people now, and need a place to continue their bullshit. Some will grow past this, but by that point the next generation of gym shitheads is ready.

The only way I agree with your comment is if you said “people at the gym aren’t judging you any more than people outside the gym already do”. Maybe it’s just the area I live, but everything becomes a game of judgement. It’s one thing to say “yeah I’m being judged by other people and I don’t care”. But to determine that you aren’t being percieved at all off of this idea is more delusional than the idea that you are being percieved.

Asperger’s is pretty ableist, albeit not popularly known as ableist. It was pretty much the term for the autism that Nazis saw as a superior subgroup of people, from the name of a Nazi doctor. While being autistic could get you killed by the Nazis, being diagnosed with Asperger’s would have been a good thing. It’s essentially saying that you have good autism and not bad autism.

Not saying anything bad about the meme because most people don’t know the origin of the term and who doesn’t love the ass burger thing. But I’m never gonna see the use of a Nazi doctor’s name for this sort of thing as normal and will educate people at any opportunity. It would be like saying conjoined twins have Mengele syndrome. Yeah he started a bunch of research on conjoined twins, but he usually just brutally murdered them.

Posting a blacked out screenshot and saying “Ada made me do it” is just weird. You didn’t even leave a description. All we see is that you got a DM and there are a bunch of scribbles over it, this is a nothing burger. It being pinned to the top of the community is weird. If you had posted the actual screenshot and made an actual point to what they said and didn’t use slurs that insult my child, I’d feel a tad different. But as it stands, this really feels like drama seeking behavior. There is no argument being made, it’s just directing people towards Hexbear.

This is the kind of thing that Chapo got banned from Reddit over, the exact event that created Hexbear. If you don’t like Hexbear, that’s fine. They are generally drama starters, I don’t support defederation but I understand why it’s being talked about. But you can’t call their users slurs, provide no context to what they said, and expect anybody in what is a safe space to be okay with it. It is literally the same thing that makes us discuss defederation with Hexbear, except they don’t use slurs.

Oh boy, more of Moss starting shit. This is literally bait that doesn’t actually communicate anything, along with communicating something you never actually said. Moss, quit with the shitty bait posts and ableist slurs, you are a drama starter in your own community and it isn’t appreciated. Malicious compliance towards Ada is a dick move.

Yeah, I don’t think this meme gets it all the way, but I still think it’s funny. Pretty much anybody in a marginalized group forced around non-marginalied people, the marginalized people have to perform. Like women being forced to wear makeup for men, or black people being forced to code switch when talking to white people.

Cis people do go to extreme lengths to perform gender, but it simply isn’t as important for cis straight white men. Elon Musk got more hair because it made him feel better, not because he needed to not be bald if he was ever going to be considered a man. Elon doesn’t have to code change or anything of the sort, he doesn’t have to adjust to anybody. If Elon Musk was a black guy or a woman, he’d be far more hated because it’s not okay for anybody except cis white men to act like that for some reason. Elon is an extreme example, but I’m sure we all know some C grade white guys that love to act like that. Where if they weren’t white guys, nothing in their life would work because of how little effort they actually put in.

I think this meme is just trying to highlight that marginalized people have to put far more effort into their identity than non-marginalied people. Whenever I’m talking to other trans people, I am the kid putting cookies in the oven because I really don’t try too hard and I just do what comes natural. But the second I’m going to be around cis people, I am a French chef tweezing off every individual hair from my face so nobody notices, essentially trying to create the perfect plate to distract from my AGAB.

Vapes = bad for lungs, cigs = plant therefore it’s healthy.

Someone made a comment saying that they’d be down to fuck a trans man if they hadn’t transitioned yet because he likes women. It was controversial, but then one of the mods here decided to post a screenshot of that comment on the main, and the people in the comments were fucking horrendous. It’s all “I’m an ally, but…” statements. Some of them were fine, but even the best ones were just people taking the opportunity to say that they don’t wanna fuck trans people. And that’s fine, you don’t have to be attracted to trans people at all, but a trans safe space isn’t the spot for that discussion at all.

The mod shouldn’t have posted what’s essentially bait, nor should they have not actually moderated the thread after posting the bait. I’m pretty sure the instance admin ended up having to handle it. The guy who made the original comment is saying it was him, but that’s not really what matters. This controversy was more about properly moderating the space than anything.

The mod could have just… Not responded to it like they don’t respond to thousands of comments. You’re not listening to the point. If you’re straight, don’t fuck trans men because you view them as women because vagina and boob

Thank you for providing good context on this thread. The original comment was ass, but not important overall. If the mod hadn’t decided to explicitly defend it, this wouldn’t even be a conversation. This entire discourse would have been avoided if it wasn’t for a shitty mod post.

I have no idea what the history of 196 being queer is, but it was an extremely queer subreddit. I think it has something to do with how many trans people also happen to be shitposters.

I find this statement bad because of the sheer number of queer people in the open source space.

Yeah, from my basic understanding of language, it seems like Japanese is a far denser language that something like English. I’ve heard that people are able to indicate tone and other such things in a way that’s just kinda built into the language, whereas with English or similar languages it would require extra sentences that seem awkward