If stage fright is the fear that one has, when performing
Then inbox fright is the fear/dread I have, when it comes to getting replies or reactions, after I post…
Especially if its related to political content
You never know if you’re going to pulled into a struggle session over something and sent nasty messages, overall
I used to have such fear, especially when I was younger. not just an inbox fright but also some sort of “reaction fright” meaning that I was scared a lot about people’s reaction in a face-to-face conversation
It’s important to remember that you don’t owe it to anyone to engage in a comment fight. If someone decides to be grouchy and try to pull you into an argument, you can just ignore it and move on with your day.
I post a lot of memes across Lemmy, and you’d be surprised (or maybe not) how often someone goes out of their way to be upset and attempt to bait me or others into arguing with them. I think some people just enjoy being mad, but I’m not one of them, so I’ve decided that it’s not worth the mental energy to engage with that.
Leaning into the “ThePicardManuever is half of lemmy” meme, it would be terrible if you (or anyone!) were cowed by downvotes
sees 1 new notification oh cool someone responded to something let’s see what it is
5 notifications hmm. Well something I commented on must have hit the front page / trending
22 notifications oh god what community decided to take issue with me now… (after blocking a few instances, the amount of gif and emoji spam on my inbox has drastically reduced)
This was a thing on reddit too. Don’t think that Lemmy is immune to group think or even bots intentionally farming divisiveness. If anything, the inconsistent moderation by design makes it even more susceptible.
I try to tell myself to just roll my eyes at pointlessly negative comments, throw it a downvote if I think it’s not contributing anything useful, and move on. Otherwise they’ll drag you to their level and beat you with experience, as it were.
If you get banned from one instance with any level of drama, the admins will gossip about you to their friends who admin other instances. Then you’re banned from two to three instances, and the next time you get into any kind of debate or disagreement, “ah, I see you were banned by three different instances, you must be a troublemaker.” Before long the situation is, “I see that a dozen instances all completely independently decided to ban you. You must be a piece of shit.” ONE person can get you kicked off most of the fediverse because of the level of trust and respect for authority there is here.
Anyway, ACAB.
