On the internet, it is common to call a guy a misogynist, but what is the exact meaning of misogynist? Is it 1. A guy who hates women? Or 2. a guy who thinks men are superior. Or 3. A guy who believes in women should follow traditional norms like cooking. 

  • Nefara@lemmy.world
    10·
    7 months ago

    In your posts you make a lot of sweeping generalizations about all women being this or that without seeming to recognize that half of all the humans on earth are women. It’s not like we’re some subset or subclass or minority. There is basically no statement you could make that could actually apply to ALL women. So perhaps why you are running into people using this term with you is that you are ignoring a women’s personhood.

    If some guy with blond hair was a jerk to you, would you go online and complain about how all blond people are jerks and they don’t like you and you don’t understand why they’re all so hostile? You would probably recognize that that one person was just a jerk. Then if you were a jerk to every blond person you met from then on, based on that experience, they would probably all respond to you poorly back and just feed a loop of nastiness and resentment.

    If you don’t want to be a misogynist, then you must learn and remember that every woman is a person of their own, with their own personalities and histories and just as many idiosyncrasies, faculties, and basic rights as any man.

      • nottelling@lemmy.worldEnglish
        51·
        7 months ago

        I know I shouldn’t, but I’ll bite on this stupidity cause I can’t sleep and I’m bored.

        1. Applying statistics to individuals is problematic. Look up the concept of monolithing.
        2. Framing height preference statistics as some intrinsic thing that women unfairly hold against you.
        3. Assuming that if you fit some magic combination of metrics such as height, a woman is going to be attracted to you.
        4. Literally excusing “doesn’t hate women but thinks they should do housework”. Look up apologetics.

        Your whole post history is either apologetics and handwaving about gender roles, or coming off as you deserve a girlfriend but girls don’t like X. You need to drop the entire concept of women/men are better suited to roles, stop trying to apply population-wide statistics to individual people as if they’re RPG NPCs, and you need to realize that plenty of poor ugly short dudes have hot girlfriends because poor, short, and ugly are relative to the individual. Not the statistic.