Met a guy at a house party that everyone seemed to like. Had some interesting stories, but he mostly came off as a self obsessed dickhead.
He later became pretty noteworthy in the industry he worked in.
10 years on from when I met him, turns out he’s at best a serial sexual assaulter, and a serial rapist at worst.
Yes. Customer. Was clearly smooth talking con man others aspire to be. No one else believed me. Or questioned how he was going to set up the kind of construction operation he claimed to run. Literally weeks after moving to the area.
Boss took the bait. Even introduced the guy to other friends and customers. Guy promised them all a bunch of work but needed down payments for materials. Vanished about a month after the checks cleared.
There was this guy I met at the dog park who talked nicely to everybody, especially to the ladies. He would be the kind to always greet you, offered to share his snacks. He seemed to always be at the center of the conversation.
He tended to orbit around my now gf and for a long time he forcefully sticked with us, all good there at the beginning. But as soon as I started going out with her his behavior changed. Instead of being a direct ass to me he tried to monopolize my girlfriend’s attention, being overly attentive, stomping over me when I was talking, always trying to dominate the conversation.
Now, his true color started to show when I confronted him when he was trying to impose his lifestyle on others.
He attempted to get a mutual friend to drink with him, which is by no means bad, the problem was than this mutual friend was a recorying alcoholic.
He tried to coherse her by using social pressure, saying that you should enjoy (which is true, but he doesn’t get a say in how anyone else “enjoy” THEIR LIVES), but I standed against it. The few times we drank together I was able to keep her from overdrinking, sooooo he started to invite her without acquaitances.
Long story short:
- He got our mutual friund hooked again to the point of losing her job.
- I untintentionally got the best of him, such as “women are less value than the historical sites they destroy in feminist rallies” and regarding his own girlfriend who doesn’t want to have kids “she is to young to know that”. He once asked this out of nowhere “how old do you think they are?”, whes referring to two teenagers who were clearly 15 at best.
- It turns out that majority of the dog owners dislike this guy. But, no one ever said anything because we all thought he was well liked in the cammunity.
There’s a thing called the Abilene paradox. A family is hanging out when one of the suggests having dinner in Abilene. It’s a hot day and a long drive, but nobody wants to be left out, so they all agree. After a terrible dinner, they all reveal their frustrations at the event when the person who suggested it notes that it was the first thing they thought of, as they thought everyone else was bored.
Thus, everyone sits in wonder at how they all convinced each other to do something nobody among them wanted to do.
It’s fun how often that includes hanging out with someone.
Yeah, I really didn’t like my buddy’s girlfriend. I could see right through her, and she was changing by buddy for the worse. She was convincing him that his image was shit, and it really damaged his confidence. He’d change his outward appearance for her, dropped his entire lifestyle, but she had abandonment issues so wasn’t ever happy with any partner.
Turns out she was a narcissist, like bonafide. What went down next:
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She graduates college with a STEM degree, while having freeloaded in his house her entire senior year (his mortgage)
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She breaks up and moves out of nowhere, this several months after she insisted on all the other roommates get kicked out to “take it to the next level”
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He goes suicidal, makes two attempts, but finds another lost soul to have a fling with, which starts to bring him out of the depression
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Ex-girlfriend finds out about new fling, drops by house at 1am after having left the club (driving drunk, I’ll add)
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Makes a huge scene out front of his house, I’m there for my “shift” on suicide watch, she ends up kicking me in my fucking kidney while I was squatting and smoking a cig
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He ends up depressed again, 3rd suicide attempt and he doesn’t survive
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I’m a pall bearer at 25 for my best friend since 8th grade
Fuck that bitch.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t begin to imagine what kind of horrible person does that kind of shit to anyone, let alone someone who struggled so much with their mental health.
It sounds like you were a great friend to him.
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Absolutely, my shitbag-dar is on point. I have too many to choose from. How about the “good Christian” guy in college who ended up body shaming a friend if mine into becoming overweight because he preferred overweight women, then cheating on her and beating her? Or the piece of shit who played off that he was so nice that got a new car and proceeded to try to get every girl in the friend group to go for a ride… Yeah, you guessed it, he tried to assault multiple women in that new car of his. Yeah, the list goes on and on. Honestly, I have met more than enough openly shitty people who had more good in them than so many of the well liked people.
